Category: Single Motherhood
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A Rambling on Friendship (It All Comes Together in the End)
This summer, while visiting my hometown, I had an experience that blew up everything I’ve known to be true about myself as a friend. Now, several months have passed, and the event is something I still revisit in my mind weekly. Not only did it have a severe impact on my role as a friend,…
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Let’s Step Outside, Johnny. It’s Time to Deal with the Wrath of Momma
My son has an “oral” issue. It started when I began feeding him soft foods. When was that? Three or four months? The years slip by…He would insist on following every bite of food by sticking the two center fingers of his left hand into his mouth. If I didn’t let him do this, he would…
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When the Show Must Go On…
When I experienced disappointment, heartbreak, and discouragement pre-children, I had the freedom to go to bed at 4 in the afternoon if I wanted to, lose myself in a Law and Order marathon, or call a friend and talk for hours about how much the world sucked. Post-children, there is no time for processing. Grief…
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Can You Accommodate My Child’s Brilliance at Your Average Elementary School?
Hi. My child has an IQ of 140, can juggle fire and is an accomplished French chef. He was recently contacted by NASA to lead the next space mission to Mars. He is only 5, but reads at the college level. Tell me, can you accommodate such brilliance at your elementary school, here in the…
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Co-sleeping with Rabid Monkeys
Co-sleeping. Family bed. The literature is out there, and so are the anecdotes. My second husband was from India and I remember that he slept with his parents until 7th grade. Some of this was due to available space in his parent’s home, but it is also just more widely accepted in India to co-sleep.…
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Daycare Recap: Momma, I Found a Sausage in My Chicken
I really love my kids’ daycare. When I first enrolled my son, I couldn’t imagine how I would pay the weekly fees. Now, 5 years and one more child later, I have come to learn that it is one of the more affordable daycares in the area. I have invested tens of thousands of dollars…
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How Nail Shellac Allows Me to Live a Fantasy and Other Self Care Strategies
Self care: so elusive for parents. It’s like the Northern Lights or Haley’s Comet. Especially when there are so many things competing for our self care time, which comes along as often as Haley’s Comet. Here are some self care practices I’ve engaged in over the past year and my thoughts about their effectiveness when it…
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6 Tips for Traveling with Toddlers
1. Make them carry their own luggage. They will learn to appreciate the art of packing light and identifying only the necessities for travel. This also allows momma to pack 4 extra pairs of shoes to ensure proper footwear for all occasions. 2. Download hours of TV programming for the flight. If you have a…
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5 Forbidden Things to Say to a Complete Stranger (Me) with Children
Have you ever been at the mall or the grocery store, or maybe a birthday party, and a total stranger and asks you an extremely personal, sometimes offensive or painful question? Parents of adopted children, adults who have chosen not to have children, single moms, by choice or not, and parents of two (or more) different…
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5 Reasons to Wait Until You are at Advanced Maternal Age to Have Children
I didn’t fully commit to the idea of having kids until I was in my mid-30s. At this point I had already reached a period called “advanced maternal age” and when I became pregnant, it was called an “at-risk pregnancy.” Needless to say, while my own doctor was cool as a cucumber about my risky…
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