Category: Single Motherhood
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Solo Mama: What Happens When You Let Go of Your Destructive Nature?
Oh. My. Goodness. I’m reminded of the song that has a line that goes “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Who was that? Who cares. I’m old and I don’t have space in my memory banks. It was this summer as I was in the shower, crying, that I realized that my…
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Solo Mama: “I Never Thought I’d (fill in the blank)!”
I have to travel for work this week. On one hand, it is nice to go to bed when I want to, not worry about monitoring minion behavior, and share a bed with two children and a dog. On the other hand, I typically end up missing my kids terribly and spend a lot of…
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Solo Mama Moving Through Marriage Like a Knife to Butter
I’ve been married twice. I may have been struggling with my mental health long before I was married the first time. Definitely with depression. These past two weeks have been killer sitting through church. The messages have been about marriage and divorce. Nothing condemning or guilt producing or traumatic in terms of the message. Just…
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Solo Mama: Don’t ever do this…..
My daughter makes her mark on my world every day. Every single day. She makes me laugh, she makes me cry, she makes my head spin, she makes me clench my teeth and raises my blood pressure. Lately she has been on this “Momma, never do “X” because…” mission. To the point where I’ve had…
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Solo Mama: Defixating on a Fixation
I was checking in with a friend who has a young daughter who struggles with mental healthiness. He mentioned this thing about her fixations and how much energy she puts into trying to get certain parts of her life to improve. She refuses to give up, even when she is failing, and has essentially become…
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Hi God, It’s Me, Crazy Solo Mama
Hi God. I’ve known you since I was little and I probably haven’t skipped a year of church since I was born, including in my adult life. I’ve read so many books about you and traveled the world and talked about you with hundreds of people to learn more about you and how others interact…
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Solo Mama: When You Are Not Trying Hard Enough
I’m just curious. Has anyone out there been involved with some type of “system” in life – justice, education, employment assistance, public assistance, mental health , child welfare, religious, medical (health) care – and are told by someone “inside” the “system” that you are just not trying hard enough? You are not trying hard enough…
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Solo Mama: Eccentric Coping
Jumping ahead in my story (without even starting from the beginning), part of my summer included learning numerous coping strategies for dealing with several mental health diagnoses. Probably the hardest hitting issue has been anxiety. Every time I go in to see my prescribing nurse, I ask her if we can’t just medicate me out…
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Solo Mama: Reconstructing Reality
I am sitting in an all-day departmental workshop focused on problem solving. The facilitator has everyone stand up in a circle and give their name, division and project update. My morning was off to a bad start. I was triggered by a text and am doing my best to manage my emotions. They go straight…
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Solo Mama: Where Do I Begin?
For anyone who has read my posts in the past…I love humor, I love telling stories about my kids and I love putting myself on front street for all bad parenting choices I make. I want to be a voice out there, speaking loudly that: It’s ok to have bad parenting moments! It’s ok to…
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